We’ve had five months to adjust to being a family of four and I can’t begin to tell you how incredibly wonderful having two little ones really is. I was so anxious before Tom was born- how would I manage with two when Sam already took up all of my time? What if Sam really didn’t like having a sibling? How would I ever give as much attention to the new baby as I did to Sam when he was born? And on. And on. And on I went. And sure, there are days when life is totally nuts and the house is a disaster and I’m super tired and cranky and I lose my patience and having two little ones does seem crazy. But then there are moments like this.
And the love that these two little boys already have for each other is incredible and so surprising, I mean I knew I’d love this little one instantly and without limit but nothing could prepare me for how quickly they felt that way about one another. It’s not perfect. Sam gets frustrated when he wants my attention and I’m busy with Tom. And Tom gets pretty bothered when he wants a feed, like now, and I have to make him wait a moment or two. But when I overhear Sam ‘teaching’ Tom how to do something, like ‘Here Tom, let me show you, this is how you jump Tom. Jumpy, jumpy, jumpy.’ And when I hear Tom squealing with delight simply because his big brother is looking at him, my heart feels like it’s going to burst.
To all the Mom’s out there who are expecting a second child and are, as I was, anxious about how it’s going to affect your first born or change your dynamic or be really hard to handle, take heart. You’ll have your tough days but then good ones will be so incredibly good that you’ll move on and forget the bad. Having two children takes all of the love that you had with one child and multiplies it, not by two, but by a hundred. And we’re only five months in :)